It was so easy to know my worth before kids.
Before kids I had a job, heck I had a career! I climbed that ladder of success.
Before kids I hit the gym, I ran, I swam. I had fitness goals!
Before kids my wardrobe was less practical and more fabulous! I even wore heels!
Before kids I had the luxury of time, sleep, money. I was able to prioritise all those things that society considered markers of success. Society told me I was doing a great job! I knew my worth…..
Then came after kids.
And yes, I chose to put that career on hold; I prioritised time with my family over time at the gym;
I chose more practical clothes that allowed me to chase my kids at the park and down the street and through the isles at the supermarket.
But what I didn’t realise, that I would find so challenging, was this…
As a Mum we are not rewarded for a job well done with a promotion or a pay rise.
We are no longer thanked by our bosses or clients or colleagues for the effort and hard work we put in everyday.
We are no longer admired for our fashion forward choices and perfectly impractical footwear (No one asks where they can find my sneakers, because no one particularly wants to buy them, myself included)
There are no medals for chasing your kids around all damn day long.
When there is no clear marker for success, no one to celebrate your wins on your behalf, no one to praise you for a job well done. It is so easy to forget your worth……
So here’s what I’ve had to learn…
Being a parent is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. It is incredibly challenging, but equally rewarding. However, through it all, it is so important not to forgot YOUR worth.
Challenge the social hallmarks of success you previously lived by.
Celebrate your achievements, however small they may seem have previously seemed. (You’re all dressed today! Nailed it!)
Know that what you are doing everyday is building something that is bigger than yourself and that is something to be so incredibly proud of…..